There’s no better day than Father’s day to publicly acknowledge:
Sometimes dads get the short end of the stick.
I remember when I was about 11 years old I bought a hilarious issue of MAD magazine. You know, MAD – the satire mag with the
picture of Alfred E. Newman on the cover.
One particular article was mocking the media, and had this cartoon of the typical dad as he’s usually portrayed on TV:
A bumbling idiot guy is stooped down in the kitchen, peering into the oven with his hand on the temperature knob of the stove. And he’s saying, “Jeepers honey, I can’t seem to find channel 4 on the Teee-Veee.”
Yep…. the comedians give you a more accurate picture than the news does, most of the time.
Consistently, dads are portrayed on TV as stupid. They’re dumber than mom, dumber than their mistress, dumber than the mouthy teenage kids, dumber than the plumber.
My kids have “Berenstain Bears” books that we read at bedtime. In these books, Papa Bear usually says stupid things and Mama Bear usually corrects him.
Portraying husbands and dads as helpless fools is so common, most of us don’t even notice it anymore.
Or how about that old feminist slogan, “A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle”?
What a thoroughly slanderous thing to say. I fail to see the humor. How is that any less insulting than, say, calling someone a nigger?
Our culture freely and gleefully tears down men. It forges their greatest strengths and highest aspirations into weapons that are used against them.
And my job today, Father’s day in the United States, is to set the record straight.
Men are not fools nor are they pigs or idiots.
Millions of men labor long hours for their wives and families and make great sacrifices for their loved ones. They set aside their personal agendas every day at 6 or 7am and drive to work and take great pride in caring for their families. They come home after dark and do it all over again the next day.
Many a man is too busy providing for his family and attending to his responsibilities, to try to argue with some bitter magazine columnist or college professor who labels him as ‘unnecessary.’
The fact that he IS necessary, and that people DO depend on him in a very real way, is actually the source of his greatest pride. It’s inseparable from his identity: At his core, he understands himself as the #1 defender and provider of those whom he loves.
So why am I saying all this to you today?
Not to put down people who put down men; not to nurse a grudge; but rather to say that on Father’s day we need to take a minute and untangle some of the lies and hurtful things that are said about men.
Because 97% of the time, they’re not true.
These lies must be untangled so that the truth can be spoken and received:
If you are a man, a husband, a father, a provider, YOU are worthy of honor and today is the day the world honors you. Today I honor you for what you do, even though much of the time it may feel like a thankless job.
THANK YOU for doing what you do.
And also, whether you are a man or a woman, a grandpa or a teenager, there is probably some *other* man in your life that deserves an embrace or an email or a phone call or a text message – some small token of thanks and honor for being who he is and doing what he does.
It’s a day for all of us to honor each other for the ways that we serve.
Now if you are a man and an entrepreneur then you sometimes have TWO thankless jobs not one. Jobs which are often directly at odds with each other.
And… if you’re a *struggling* entrepreneur then you have a triple whammy: The challenges of the two jobs and the tension between the two… combined with injury to your pride because you have not been able to provide as well as you dearly dream of providing.
Not many people understand how deeply that moves you sometimes. It’s a private hurt, for the most part.
Please remember, it is a hurt that comes from the noblest of intentions and the highest of aspirations.
Sometimes men and entrepreneurs alike are judged by other people as just being selfish.
Sometimes our best efforts to give are misconstrued as attempts to take.
All men struggle with this. You and me both. You’re not alone.
Let me tell you a little story….
I’ve got this little group of friends at my church that sometimes gets together for the sole purpose of praying and… just listening.
Listening to what the Still Small Voice may have to say.
Waiting until something is heard, until Wisdom presents herself.
Sometimes those meetings are pretty quiet. Sometimes there are long stretches of silence. It’s a strange and special thing.
On one particular day I was seeking wisdom about this very question – what to do with this feeling that, sometimes, my own best efforts to give have been misconstrued by others as attempts to take.
I wait and listen for awhile and after some time goes by, the answer comes back: “People do that to Me all the time. They interpret My best efforts to give as attempts to take. This is an experience you and I both share, together.”
Wow. A Father and a son having empathy for each other. Sharing that mutual experience and bonding together, within that experience. How human that is, yet… how supernatural.
So yes, today I acknowledge with you that shared experience. I celebrate you and we all celebrate Father’s Day and give HONOR to dads. Dads who, even in all our imperfections, strive and sacrifice to give the very best to those we love.
Seize the Day.
Perry Marshall
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107 Comments on “Father's Day Rant and a message of honor”
Perry, Happy Father’s Day to you! Your comments moved me, especially the reference to our Heavenly Father’s deep understanding of getting the short end of stick Himself. This should humble each of us and bring us joy knowing that we are counted worthy to walk the same path as our Lord. God bless you, your family and your ministry. ~ Jas
Hi Perry,
The pressures are not something everyone can understand. It’s good to hear from someone’s that’s been there.
Mike
Perry,
Your writings are a huge inspiration to me. I have turned into a hopeful entrepreneur since I have started reading your stuff.
May God bless you and let you continue help people around the world.
Thanks
Khaqan
Happy Father’s Day One and All,
Perry, those were some of the most beautiful inspired words I’ve ever heard. :)
Many thanks for addressing and rebuking the negative stereotypes about us guys.
My own dear father passed away relatively young in 1990 about a month and a half before his 65th birthday, and I miss him terribly.
He always there for me, and made sure that he provided for us in the ways that you have described. Even when he was as sick as a dog, he forced himself to go to work so that we would be taken care of as sadly his employer of the time didn’t offer things like PTO for sickness recovery purposes.
He will always be remembered with love, honor, and respect.
Keep on telling it like it is! :)
Warmest Regards and Best Wishes,
FJT
Much appreciated post this Father’s Day, Perry.
As you probably remember, I grew up without mine as he left when we still small. My mother did a great job of raising us on her own and didn’t re-marry until I was 19.
So the very concept of “Father” is still a struggle for me even though I am one to two wonderful sons.
My Dad died at the ridiculously young age of 55 and I never got to know anything about him.
For those of you who still have your Dads, I am indeed envious – go and give them a big hug from me!
Best. Post. Ever.
Thanks Perry.
I hardly ever comment but I must say this was very well written, inspirational, and absolutely true. Thank you for sharing it.
What an interesting and timely article. I especially appreciate the many women who have posted comments supporting the importance of the men in their lives. As for the many media messages portraying men as bumbling idiots, it certainly never stopped me from doing my best in raising my sons as a single dad. Life is not an easy proposition for most of us but we perservere not due to the acclamation of the crowd but rather because it is the right thing to do.
You think father is a thankless job, try step-father to three girls for 4 years so far. It’s rough at times and rewarding at times but when you do get that thank you for teaching the kids something about business and REAL life, at that point I am their dad and yes deserve it.
As far as help that goes perceived as hidden agenda, story of my life. Someone once told me don’t camp in someone else’s backyard. Made sense. Was reminded of it this week when a company with an affiliate program cut me off because I was using adwords to make some cash and they just didnt like adwords for some reason. Go figure. Lesson learned from the small voice and many others, move on and help when only asked for or very carefully slip messages in that help. With the girls this works wonders so I guess it will work with clients.
Hi Perry,
this seems to be an annual event ;-)
I have another thought on this. Whilst most wives do not appreciate all the effort their blokes put in for them, it is as well to realize that this is your man’s way of saying “I love you, truly, honestly”. It was only when I began to help out in the business that I realized what an effort he put into it all.
But most girls don’t get to realize this, so I would suggest to the guys that they show their real appreciation by the occasional bunch of flowers or something their wife really likes – believe me you will get a hundred times more in return. That way, it might dawn on them that you go out day after day and toil away at your work to support her!
To be a quality father, you need the support of a quality wife – because the quality father is nothing without his family :-)
Amen to that Perry. Men in general are portrayed as sex-starved idiots in TV shows, news, etc. On feminist channels like WE and Lifetime, usually end up being date rapists as well. Always bugged me. Great post.
Hi Perry, I think the comments about men being dumb are just pure fun and humour, everyone knows they’re not really true. However, women have had hundreds of years made to feel like second class citizens and inferior to men. In the UK women are the butt of the jokes – women’s driving, mother-in-laws etc. It is all just taken in good humour.
As far as men being painted as fools or being the providers, this is as ludicrous as saying women are cooks and homemakers. We are all what we are, and those who poke fun at everyone for a living use whatever stereotypes they can find. We, who work on understanding the value of ourselves and our fellow human beings, bow to those calling names and get an extra opportunity to honor our fellow humans. I put a picture of my dad, who has been gone for 47 1/2 years, on my website. Go, Dad!
One of my favorite movies is “The Contender,” with Joan Allen and Jeff Bridges. Joan is up for a Vice Presidential nomination and the investigators have just accused her of having an orgy in college. She does not feel the need to respond. Go Joan’s character!
Great to show honor. Not necessary to think that putrid comments need response. Happy Father’s Day to all.
My dad, Hal Henson (passed away Nov, 2004), was a great dad. I was 33 when he passed and I still miss him to this day. My dad showed me unconditional love and he prepared me in the best way he could for this life. Of course there were shaky moments in our relationship here and there, but that’s to be expected. You’ll appreciate this: he coerced me into getting an undergrad in electrical engineering. I worked as an engineer for almost 9 years, but I’ve reaped so much benefit from getting that degree (despite, or maybe because of, all the blood, sweat and tears that went into it) and he was there to cheer me on when I thought I couldn’t go on anymore. Thanks Perry for sticking up for the dads out there. And thanks dad for always being there for me!
Great points as usual Perry.
You might be interested in seeing what someone like Donald MIller (author of Blue Like Jazz) is doing to try and help combat the dearth of quality fathers in the US through his organization The Mentoring Project – http://www.thementoringproject.org/
Keep it up.
Miller’s books are great!
All I can say Perry is… PERFECT. Consider this posted and shared.
You know, I think this is the reason that the show “The Simpsons!” gives me the creeps. All the men are idiots in that show, especially Homer. Our society should honor good men and fathers more, especially if we want more of them.
I disagree with your take on the “A woman needs a man like fish needs a bicyle” slogan. Like you said, it’s a feminist slogan born during a time when the ONLY way a woman could be deemed sucessful is if she married and had children. Sadly, there are still plenty of females who base their entire self worth on their ability to attract men.
Anyway, a blessed and Happy Fathers Day to all the smart, hardworking, and caring men out there. We need you!
“Our society should honor good men and fathers more, especially if we want more of them.”
Now THAT is a quotable quote!
I’m gonna kick off with that on today’s interview —- Christian Entrepreneur online radio interviews me today: Purging mental garbage http://tobtr.com/s/1095149
Always enjoy your sane, rationale and helpful take on things Perry. And “good-onya” for speaking out where others won’t.
I appreciate you – and we don’t tell people that often enough. (And you keep listening to that “still small voice” – what would we do without that Dad of dads.)
From one dad to another, in-time but out-of-season (we celebrate Father’s Day in September in Australia), here’s a big cyber-manly-hug in appreciation.
Thank you.
And a cyber man-hug back. Man-rant turns into a hug. What a strange world it is…
Perry,
I wandered in here after reading Michel Forten’s blog post that lead me to your rant about “licking the boots.” Right on man.
I love your emails and posts.
About Father’s Day…
My father left an indelible mark on my life with his simple and profound statements. I owe an enormous debt of gratitude to him for having shaped the values that have propelled me into my adulthood.
Those same values now live through my children all the more as I have had the great honor and privilege of homeschooling my three boys (one of which is now my business partner.)
My parents pretty much cheered me on when I made that decision some fifteen years ago (my mom was a public school teacher at that time, by the way.)
I have been enormously blessed with a patient loving husband that has passed on a legacy of humility and wisdom to my three boys.
It’s often said that women marry a man like their father.
I would say that is true in my case. I was able to spot a man of character a mile way when I met my husband 27 years ago. (Hard to believe it’s been that long.) (-:
I’ve been enormously blessed with an amazing father, amazing husband and three amazing sons.
I couldn’t ask for more.
Ann Sieg
Ann,
I think 99% of the people in the world truly underestimate the power of a great father. Everybody knows the mantra about kids’ future prospects being proportional to their “socio-economic status.” The untold story is – the REAL success factor is the presence and involvement of a strong loving Father. John Eldredge’s superb book “Wild At Heart” addresses this in a most eloquent way.
Congrats on having great men in your life, may the legacy live on.
Perry
Perry,
Wow. Somebody finally said it. Single Dad here, 4 kids who live with me, one with a host of medical issues – I work my a** off, am a struggling entrepreneur, and still get a hard time for not giving up on having my own business, or if I take a couple days for myself, which I do about 3x’s a year. Your words are a comfort that my 16 yr.old daughter really needs to read:)! Thanks for honoring us Perry.
“The fact that he IS necessary, and that people DO depend on him in a very real way, is actually the source of his greatest pride. It’s inseparable from his identity: At his core, he understands himself as the #1 defender and provider of those whom he loves.”
You’re triply tortured as an entrepreneur: you feel the constant burn inside to live to your potential, you can’t spend the time with your family that you want to (at least at first), and along the way you fail.
And when you fail, or you fall short of your manly expectations for providing… man, your paragraph above illustrates how you pride is wounded.
Thanks for giving me inspiration to continue the battle.
All the fuss about you using the “n-word” is ridiculous. In the context you used it: “How is that any less insulting than, say, calling someone a nigger?” it was entirely appropriate.
Furthermore, I personally feel it is no worse than calling women by the “c-word” (damn I hate that one) or black people calling whites by the “h-word” (I have a friend who worked for years at McDonald Douglas and was subjected to it daily.)
All those words and may others are used in a certain context to insult someone. In the context you used it, it wasn’t. So get over it, people!
All this political correctness BS is stifling, and I think some people are just looking for a reason to feel slighted. How about you get real, and only take offense when you know offense is intended?
Again, this was a great post, and you said some things that needed to be said. All the hard-working Dads and Husbands in the world should say thanks to you for speaking their minds.
I totally agree with you, well put.
great post. But using the “n” word. thats a bit much. Come on Perry.
Greetings from the UK where dad’s feel the same. Thanks for putting it into words – I was strangely moved
Perry,
I’m glad to see I’m not the only one with a problem with the Berenstein Bears books. I wond up refusing to buy my daughter any more of them.
regards,
John B
Thank you Perry, even i am not a father, i feel i am not contibuting enought for the ones i love trying to be an entrepreneurship, thanks a zillion for your words :)
Just read your email – made me stop in my tracks. My office is quiet now. And for a brief moment in the midst of my entrepreneurial chaos, I feel validated by someobdy who understands what it’s like.
Thank you for writing this – It’s going to get printed and put on my bulletin board for future referance/inspiration.
Husband/Soon-To-Be-Father,
-Justin
I love it. That’s all I will say. Great Rant.
Thanks, Perry… nicely done.
I find value in all of your newsletters and today was no exception. You continue to inspire me and I look forward to sharing my success story with you shortly.
Hi Perry
I read all your posts and this one especially hit a cord. I live in england and wrote many years ago a review about your messages, which I was pleased to see came to light a few weeks ago in your testimonials. Pleased because when I saw it I felt that must have been good copy that you….Perry Marshall…wanted to use and still use.
I think that since then I’ve suffered writers block!
Back to this mail; it was the part about ‘struggling entrepreneur’ that made me stop and think. I am at that point in my life; been through a number of jobs been successful in some and not so in others. So too my relationships. I think private hurt sums the situation up perfectly. I have always been able to make a living, been able to provide and have 2 fine kids to be proud of. Now however just can’t seem to get it right, I want, even need to get the success I desire from a business I have a true passion for… to help people get out of debt. But it is very true that sometimes even your best efforts just arn’t good enough and I believe that I am not alone. This though makes Fathers Day all the more important to myself as I still get the thanks from my children for what I did for them in the past. I too give thanks to my Father who gave up so much for his children whilst alive.
One final thought. My daughters friend’s father didn’t see Fathers day this year. He died the week before. The family hurt from the way in which he died, but with Gods help will surely come to terms with the fact that during his life with them HE always provided and their lives were blessed from knowing him
Thank you Perry
Great message Perry – and thanks I had a great Father’s day from my daughters (despite two of them being a bit ill at present) and wife.
One thing I don’t understand – if your kids “Berenstain Bears” books have the wrong message why have they got them? Aren’t these things the things that teach them about the world at a sensitive age and affect their values?
Mark, we’ve pointed out the message the Berenstain bears book has in it and now they notice. We don’t shield our kids, we educate them. As long as they notice, it’s Ok.
Hey Perry,
Happy Fathers Day…a day late.
Thank you for giving us a glimpse of your spirituality.
Why I think feminists and the liberal media try to down grade men is the fact that men are created in Gods image and its a blatant rebellion against God. God did create man first and then a helpmate to be at his side.
Perry – I feel a rant of my own coming on….I couldn’t agree more with you. My dad is fricken Awesome, and fortunately my close family (that’s my brother and my mum) appreciate him very much.
When I was growing up he worked really hard to provide for us, and still had energy (most evenings) to be a great dad. That’s the best gift anyone could have.
to all the dads out there – much appreciation.
I do have to admit I gasped for air when I saw the “N” word in this post. You don’t have to go back to the 1930’s. The 1970’s in the Dirty South declared that word and the actions around the use of it as nothing less that murderous.
I do agree with you Perry that young African Americans today use this word in ways that it should never be used.
I will definitely cut you some slack. I believe you meant no harm. Do you really think those two statements have the same level or slander?
As you can tell…racism is still more offensive than sexism in some circles. Both are terrible nonetheless.
Very good post overall as always Perry.
This one will throw at least some your African American customers and subscribers off-track for a little while. It’s still a hot button.
Perry, we love you and know the purity of your heart. Without disrespecting any of the honest opinions of others on your choice of wording, for those of us who know you and your work with inner city African-Americans there in Chicago, as well as your very close friendship with David Bullock, not to mention your hands-on experiences with orphanages in Africa, we know where you truly stand on this issue and that it was by no means intended to come across in the wrong way.
A wise lady once said that what we hope our friends will do is, “separate the wheat from the chaff and, with the breath of kindness, blow the chaff away.” I think this is one of those times where a friend would do well to “blow the chaff away”.
All the best,
Tyson
P.S. Happy Father’s Day!
I absolutely had to comment on this as well.
As a guy who works hard to provide for his family, I was working a full-time job – 8-9hrs/day, come home and continue working another 5-6 hrs on building up my own business (which I have now been able to do full-time!), I was working my ass off, getting maybe 4-5 hrs sleep and having to get up every morning to do it again until things lifted off.
I even had to slip in some time to wash the dishes!
Not only did I didn’t get any appreciation for it, I was getting slack for it at the time. It was frustrating.
Luckily, it’s better now, but after reading your post, I definitely have to say, stop beating up on guys.
I never disrespect women or anyone else, I don’t expect the same. I still open doors for others, let ladies go first, etc, etc. I don’t like being lumped in with a group and being called a pig just for being a guy. That’s just not fair to the rest of us 90% of guys who aren’t anything like that.
So Perry, I thank you for writing this post. Keep it coming.
Hi Perry,
Thanks for that post. I’m really glad I subscribed to your stuff. You’re one of the best. Even though I’m always busy and can’t always read your emails right away, I just can’t delete them w/o reading them later. There’s always good stuff inside. You’re teaching me a lot. And thanks for not putting a big fat affiliate link in EVERY message like most marketers do. You’re showing a lot of respect for your audience…
God bless you & your family, Randy Hoese
Perry, You always hit things head on…I appreciate your commentary and agree completely…we all need to support the Million Man March…..
Awesome stuff.You are blessed and such a blessing. Happy Fathers Day Perry.
Inspiring yes, but there is a HUGE difference in insulting men compared with the horrific word “nigger”
I’m appalled that you’d dare to compare the two.
This is not a slam, I read everything you write, but that was a tad out of bounds. Will take me a few weeks to try and forget how shocked I am at your choice of “comparisons”, but I’m sure it wasn’t your intent.
Please be careful though, trying to use such a horribly racist words like that, especially when there are a plethora of other terms that could have easily (and even better) hit home.
Still a fan,
TJ
TJ and Dr. Howell:
I hope you can cut me some slack on the huge range of meanings that these words have to different people. I come from a position of respect towards you and what you’ve experienced and the historical meaning of these words.
For me – this is just my experience – the word “nigger” is a name no white person would ever use in reference to a black person. At the same time it is a word that some African-Americans freely use with each other, with a whole range of colors and shades of meanings. It’s always derogatory in some sense but apparently acceptable.
It is in this sense that, to me, it’s comparable in flavor to the “woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle” slam.
The meaning of the word “nigger” in 2009 is much different than it was, say, in the 1930’s – where I think if stories like “To Kill a Mockingbird.”
I mean no disrespect to you guys. Thanks for voicing your thoughts.
Perry
Why do black people call themselves the N word, like all over the place, on t.v, to one another, in the music world ALL the time, and then get offended when a white person says the N word is wrong?
So weird…
Perry,
You wrote:
For me – this is just my experience – the word “nigger” is a name no white person would ever use in reference to a black person.”
This is not true. There are many white people who will still use this word amongst their friends and families to degrade African-Americans. Just because you don’t see or hear them doesn’t mean they don’t exist. The word is still used by many whites to this day. They are just very good at hiding it because it is no longer politically correct as it was in the 1800’s, 1930’s or as recently as the 1950’s and 60’s.
Susan,
When white people use the ‘N’ word to describe African Americans it is meant to elicit pain. When black people use it towards each other it is not meant to elicit pain, it is used as a way to help release the pain of racism by taking control of the word and using it in a more positive way.
Huge Difference.
Perry,
You are a gifted writer and this is a great article and right on point, however Jim Rohn used to say some words are just loaded with so much meaning and nothing you say after that can be heard.
It’s true after firing a shotgun next to your ear, you will never be able to hear the inspiring drumming of Gavin Harrison, regardless how good the playing is.
Perry, using the word nigger for comparison regardless of reasoning is like dropping a bomb, nothing else seems to matter after that. It has tarnished the message and so distracting from the wonderful message you are trying to get across.
Joe Kennedy Sr (JFK’s dad) had a wonderful saying. “If it’s not necessary to say something then it’s necessary not to say it.”
In this case nigger does not add any value to the post, there were many so many other ways you could have said it.
Still a fan too!
Perry,
I could not agree with you more. In my program, The Man Class Series, I show men how to win with women they love by understanding their desires.
I ask men to be the Chairman of the Relationship much like Chairman of the Board in a business. It is the highest position. I say men should be in the benevolent power position and they should wield their power with pride.
Earlier this year I created a term MASTERMAN (check it out on Urban Dictionary, author is Love Linguist). It is a status that all men can achieve. Forget the poor portrayals of men in comics and TV. Step up and claim your rightful place as a Masterman!
To all the dads – I love you!
Sherrie Rose
@SherrieRose
The Love Linguist
Perry,
Thanks for your awesome message,
which bears repeating.
The only ones stupid an ignorant
are the ones in the media and in
this world that make such self-centered
comments.
Happy Fathers Day, Perry
Ron Brantley
I was with you until you compared the feminist insult to being called a nigger.
That is whole different league where the hate ends with some people getting lynched.
A psychological lynching is probably worse than death, where there is at least a final release/relief. This is what I watched my husband go through for his attempts to parent the children from his previous marriage. Sadly, this great father died suddenly last summer, leaving me and our two young children behind.
Insults are instults, and it’s the individual that we have to worry about, not necessarily the insult itself. Because people react differently to them. But they are all wrong.
Thanks a zillion for that, Perry. I couldn’t agree with you more. The two men I have the most respect for in this world are my own dad and my husband, father and hero to our three sons.
We just went through a class at church “Love and Respect” and I learned a whole lot more about expressing appreciation, respect, and honor to my husband, as he learned about the kind of honor and love that women need. We’re wired very differently for very good reasons.
I’m not big on “days” for this and that, apparently for the benefit of the card shops and gift stores, but if that’s what it takes to get us to stop and acknowledge and express the appreciation that should be a regular part of our relationships, then so be it.
Happy Father’s Day to you too.
Becki
You are SO right!
You’ve said it all here, so all I want to add is that I hope everyone who reads your post today will stop and think. Think if they’ve recognized the sacrifices that their own Dads, or husbands, or brothers, or even their sons have made for them.
While my Father passed on many years ago, I’m fortunate to have a husband who has worked hard to support us, and along with him, two sons who are always there for me – and always willing to give up some of their own precious time if I need their help. (I try not to abuse the privilege!)
As for the media and their jokes – oh well, they’re just dumb. I’m a blonde, so guess I get to endure it along with the men.
Happy Father’s Day Perry!
The TV image of husbands and fathers changed in the 1960’s. My Dad is gone now but he worked through the Great Depression, married my Mom, fought in WWII and kept being a faithful husband and father. He was not rich or famous, but he was my father.
Many families in the US have fallen because of the lack of good fathers. I am also mad at TV and most movies that depict fathers as mostly stupid and incompetent. Happy Fathers Day to all of the good dads in the USA.
Wow. I was so moved by your story about listening for the still small voice. God does understand what we go through because he has gone through it so many times as well. Thank you for sharing your personal story.
Perry,
I generally never write comments (I am too busy trying to make a living), but your post hits the nail on the head.
I am sick of the insults, assumed stupidity, and general men hating in our current society. I work 2 jobs plus starting an internet site for songwriters and without me my daughter is in the street.
So Hooray for writing this.
Jon Griffin
salsablanca.com
jongriffin.com
Amen
Perry, you’ve got the best newsletter online. That’s all I’ve got to say.
What a fantastic post.
As a guy supporting his family, I’m doing it without ever want of any material “reward”.
I’m doing it because it is the core of who I am, and it actually makes me extremely proud to have my wife & kids close to me.
I’m one of those entrepreneurs you mentioned – have made some huge sacrifices, absolute pride “bashing” …and it’s now 100% worth it.
I enjoy the 12 second commute to my office.
I enjoy having breakfast, lunch, and dinner with my family.
But most all, I enjoy the freedom my wife has to do what she wants in the day and not be “roped” into a 9-5 job with the kids in “day care”.
…And it’s thanks to people like you Perry who write some amazing content, content which people like me can use, put into action, and get results that allow me to – well, “enjoy” life.
To you!
Cheers, Dave