You're awesomer than you think you are.

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When I was in 8th grade I was in the boys room at school and heard this whooshing sound coming out of a hole in the wall. I smacked it with my notebook a few times to see it it would sound any different.

Didn’t make it sound any different.

Just then, Mr. B, one of the teachers, heard the noise and walked in, grabbed me, and ushered me back to my classroom. He informed Mr. C, the art teacher, that I had been slamming my notebook against the wall in the bathroom and needed to be brought under control.

Mr. C made me come in after school to talk to him about this incident.

After school I go to his room. There were a couple of other people in the room working on art projects, and Mr. C sat me down and said, loud enough for everyone else to hear, “Perry, I’m really concerned about you. Do you need some kind of professional help? I can arrange for that if you want. Maybe you need to talk to someone about your problems.”

I can tell the girl across the room, who is working on a painting, can hear everything that is going on. But she’s politely trying to look like she’s ignoring it. I feel a hot flash of humiliation sweep through my body. I maintain a stony face and ignore Mr. C’s questioning. He and I had a hostile relationship to begin with, and it felt like he was deliberately trying to shame me.

Finally after 10 minutes of getting nowhere, he released me and I walked home.

Years later, it occurred to me that I probably *could* have used some professional help right about then. My dad had gotten demoted from his job because my mom had gone bi-polar, our whole entire life was fighting and bedlam from the time I got home from school to the time I went to bed, and a couple of kids at school were threatening to beat me up. My only escape was my music, my electronics catalogs and my stereo.

Surely everybody ought to know you can’t humiliate a 13 year old kid into bettering himself.

Frankly I don’t know ANYONE who doesn’t have some kind of story like that. A time when you really could have used an encouraging word and someone decided to rub salt in the wound instead. Some people let those stories define who they are. The rest of their life becomes some sort of revenge on Mr. C.

Maybe they succeed to show Mr. C was wrong. Or maybe they fail to show Mr. C that he was unable to teach them anything useful.

Whatever.

Personally, I don’t think you ever get much of anywhere if you let Mr. C define you. I think the best thing you can do is forgive Mr. C and decide that it’s God’s job to fix him, not yours. Actually it’s tremendously freeing to get the bitterness monkey off your back.

What’s REALLY going to propel you, I think, is the people who DID believe in you.

Mrs. Washburn, my kindergarten teacher, told my parents she thought I could be president if I wanted to be. Honestly, I can’t think of any job I’d enjoy less than running the biggest political machine in the world, but that wasn’t the point. She believed in me. My mom told me what Mrs. Washburn said over and over again until I believed it.

Mrs. Snoberger was my high school counselor and when my dad died of cancer and I was just starting my stereo business, she was the one who pointed out to me that very few kids are that entrepreneurial at age 17. She thought I was special. She wrote some recommendation letters that helped me get a much-needed scholarship.

Dr. Knoll was my college English teacher when I was 20. He was the first person to ever explain to me that I understood people *AND* things. He said most people are good at one or the other but not both. (I didn’t know that.) He predicted that I would someday be good at technical sales, and maybe even the president of a company.

It was mind-bending for me to even contemplate such a thing, back then. I was so keenly aware of my *limitations.*

"So many options for growing my business, but what should I do NOW?" Tell me your most pressing business problems and I'll show you your BEST next step.

Those words of encouragement from Mrs. Washburn, Mrs. Snoberger and Dr. Knoll carried me very, very far. It’s not even like those conversations were very long. It’s just that they had impact.

My friend, you’ve had your Mr. C’s and you’ve had your Mrs. Snobergers. You had them both. You get to decide who you listen to. Let’s just admit, they *might* both have been telling you some version of the truth.

But some truths are told to harm. Others are meant to heal.

The words that will propel you forward are the healing words. Not the hurts.

I’ve got this lady who consults for me, her name is Sue. One of her jobs is, literally, to pray for my customers. I know that sounds kind of strange, but I truly believe that every single day, thousands of people out there are on the edge. The edge of either discouragement or encouragement. The edge of either success or failure. The edge of negative judgment or positive inspiration.

I can only hope that when I blast out these crazy emails to my various lists of thousands of people, that I’m helping at least a few of them break whatever chains that have held them back. Whatever limitations of knowledge or belief, whatever barriers of confidence and security.

Because you’re only going to build a successful life out of your strengths.

Last night, after an exhilarating, exhausting Sunday, my buddy Nathan and I went out for burgers at 10pm. We were relaxing and unwinding at Bar Louie, bantering, philosphizing, solving the problems of the world.

Nathan says, “What if we’re aweseomer than we think we are?”

I smile and look at him. “Yeah… what if?”

He says, “What if we’re really operating at less than our potential simply because we don’t realize what our potential really is?”

I say, “We ALL are capable of even greater things.

“Dang, Nathan, that would make a great Facebook post.”

I get home and post. This morning, Jack Born, my resident marketing genius, replies with this quote:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that frightens us. We ask ourselves ‘who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?’

Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us; its in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same….

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

-Marianne Williamson

Amen, Jack and Marianne. One last thought for you:

During the last couple of years, most of our friends, including ourselves, have hit some MAJOR crucibles in life. One friend’s husband left her for another woman. Another’s 13 year old son died of leukemia. Another has major chronic health challenges. Another came to the brink of losing their marriage.

Another has battled a series of addictions. Another has been beleaguered with financial setbacks. Another lost pretty much everything in the real estate crash. Another had two businesses fail and is $800,000 in debt – which is about 10X his current annual income.

But with only a very few exceptions, everyone has stood proud and tall and NOT run from their problems. They have extended their roots, they have deepened their relationships with their closest friends, they have strengthened their faith, they’ve honed their ability to listen and their resolve.

They’ve become stronger, more resilient, more joyful, more resourceful, more centered.

I am immensely, indescribably proud of all of them. Better days are coming.

My friend, life is either going to polish you up or grind you down. Focus on the polishing, not the grinding. Focus on the end result.

Please listen to everything the laboratory of life is trying to tell you. And never ever forget:

YOU’RE AWESOMER THAN YOU THINK YOU ARE.

Perry Marshall

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Perry Marshall has launched two revolutions in sales and marketing. In Pay-Per-Click advertising, he pioneered best practices and wrote the world's best selling book on Google advertising. And he's driven the 80/20 Principle deeper than any other author, creating a new movement in business.

He is referenced across the Internet and by Harvard Business Review, The New York Times, INC and Forbes Magazine.

102 Comments on “You're awesomer than you think you are.”

  1. Great post. Here’s another thought:
    “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”. If the “Highway of Life” was too smooth, if there were no “Hills to Climb” there would be no growth. We only become stronger through facing and overcoming the Challenges we are dealt. Any problem that we run away from gets bigger, only when you turn and face the problem will it get smaller. Thanks.

  2. Incredibly inspiring, Perry. I now keep several of your emails linking to articles that I want to review weekly (like this one) in my inbox perpetually.

    You consistently deliver more value than any other marketer that I have ever encountered both online and off.

    And I want you to know that I’m implementing like crazy and that is due in no small part to your teaching.

    Thank you for your contribution and rock on.

    Adam Dudley
    EvolvingEntrepreneur.com

  3. Perry,

    It is my honor to hand over my money to you, month after month. Hiring someone to pray over your clients is a fantastic business practice, even from a secular perspective.

    Bravo, and gracias.

  4. The timing of your wonderful message couldn’t have come at a better time. I could relate completely to your childhood experience.

    As I struggle to build my online business I constantly run into the proverbial wall and think I will never break through. I strive to hand on to the belief that God has something good planned for me through this online business venture of mine. He knows that my heart is completely in this and I so much want to see it make an impact in my family’s life as well as those who subscribe to my newsletter.

    Thanks for being a great example to folks like myself who are striving to live their dream.

    God bless you Perry,

    Luis

  5. What a story. Very inspiring. While we all have a Dr. Knoll and Mr. C. in our lives, it’s great to be reminded to focus on Dr. Knoll. And; as a Christian my biggest Dr. Knoll is Jesus. Thank you Perry for being “aweseomer”.

  6. Perry, as always you hit the nail on the head. It’s an honor to know you, consider you a friend and read your stuff.

    Enjoy Maui.

    Much love to you and the family on Planet Perry

  7. Perry: thank you so much for sharing this. I’ve read it 3 times today. It’s a keeper !
    Blessing

    Cathy

  8. Great Post Perry,
    I woke up and opened my email and read it first. Great inspiration to start the day!

    You can never go wrong ‘building up’ one another whether you’re 10 or 100. Imagine what kind of world it would be if that was as involuntary in us like breathing! However we need to work on it. The reward is as important for us as it is for the recipient.

    A key point you make is in the phrase:
    But some truths are told to harm. Others are meant to heal.

    It all comes down to intent, obviously Mr.C had ego and inadequacy issues, the same root issues that exist in the Corp world which is why we all detest it and want to work for ourselves!

    Rock On My Man!

  9. Hi Perry,

    I’ve been getting your emails for some time now and to be honest, I mainly just read the headlines and have a quick skim through. However, your email ‘you’re awsomer than you think you are’ has had me captivated, so much so that I’ve read it 3 times, created a special folder for it in my inbox and forwarded it on to some friends!

    I have had my own business for around 1 year now and I find the only thing that holds me back is myself – it’s so frustrating that a lack of confidence and self belief can be such a barrier – your email has made me realise we all feel like this sometimes and it’s what we do about it that shapes our future.

    Thank You
    Emma

  10. Great words Perry.

    On several occasions you’ve posted these inspirational messages of hope, perseverance, strength and success.

    Aside from your marketing talents, I’m a true admirer of you as a person.

    Keep up the good work/words!!

    Phil (UK)

  11. Simply enlightening and inspiring; what you wrote is reflective of your core decency. You have the gift and inclination to have a positive impact on others.

  12. Perry,

    Thank You,

    I realized today that people can only give you 3 actual things (the is world): 1. Attention- so pay attention when someone is focused on you.
    2. Guidance- so listen when you know wisdom is moving towards you.
    3. Distraction- So know if the distraction is healthy like a good book, or destructive- like a person who can’t face the storm they live in.

    I’m grateful to you for this post and all the little things you give.

    Regards

  13. I knew you were sort of theology buff, but I had no idea you were also a philosopher. Pope John Paul II said in that document I quoted “faith proposes truths that might never have been discovered by unaided reason.” I have believed for some time that your faith enhances your reason and that is why you are so insightful about the “Google beast”. That was true of the Wright Brothers as well. Their father was a Bishop and they were devout Christians. The “faith & reason” equation is (I believe) what gave them the edge over the academic Langley”. Orville said “Isn’t it astonishing that all these secrets have been preserved for so many years just so that we could discover them!” – I believe they were divinely inspired.

    I am a Catholic and a HUGE fan of both Popes John Paul II and Benedict. If you’re interested – here’s a link to the document that quote from John Paul II came from titled ON THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN FAITH AND REASON.

    http://tinyurl.com/46wut

  14. Perry,

    Awesome advice brother. As a Christian myself I refuse to let the past mold me. Instead I believe I have some power and say in how I mold the future, with God of course having that last say in it. Keep up the good work.

    Edwin

  15. Perry : you do such a good job at making yourself come across as a real person! I love that your not only someone I can look up to in the marketing world, but someone I can look up to in real every day life as well!!

    Cant wait to meet you in Maui!

    Angela

  16. Hi Perry

    Just wanted pop in and say how much I enjoyed your article, in particular the last two have been very inspiring.

    I have my own stories and why those articles have struck a very strong cord, but that a long one.

    But I can identify along your story except that we had a particularly good teacher in high school, here in the UK and those last 3 years that we were guided in school by a Mr Medwell ( God Bless Him – wherever he is ) was a total God send in terms of a teacher who could actually listen to you and what you wanted to achieve.
    The whole class had achieved unheard levels of success.

    Perry – Some people have the ability to see what they are good at very early in life, some people have the ability to see it in others, and yet for some people it really does take half a lifetime to know what they are good at.
    Unfortunately for many they never realize what they were put on earth for. Yes that’s me in the 3rd category.
    You fit very nicely I am sure in the 2nd category. You have the “gift”, and I can see after following you for some time that you persue the art of showing people what their strengths are.

    Thank you.

    Hamant

  17. This is the most powerful post I’ve ever read – because so many of us have wasted far too much of our precious time processing victimization issues. The way bad adults made themselves very significant in our young lives was to convince us that their negative judgment was somehow our fault. If we had understood it was only their lame opinion, based on poor thinking (and deplorable internal housekeeping) we would have been able to feel sorry for them rather than absorbing a psychic punch.
    Yes, mean people suck, and since teaching is one of the lowest-paid careers available, I think it’s phenomenal that a percentage of teachers are actually wise people. School seems to be the way our social system lets the young know that, no matter your economic station, there’s always someone waiting in the hall to kick your tail – just because he can. Being able to accept that one’s world is probably never going to play fair relieves us of the need to play victim roles, and lets us focus on “moving on” strategies. I’m making sure my son knows how to understand what is his issue and how to gently deflect the jabs of ill-intentioned people of all ages.
    That’s the coolest thing about being a parent – being able to guide the children around the hazards that almost took you down.
    Thank you for writing this post and opening this discussion! It’s touched a nerve with so many people and given us a needed pause for consideration today.

  18. My favorite teacher was 7th grade English. Tough & demanding because she knew we could do it, but not if we were molly-coddled. We rose to the occasion.

    A favorite teacher for my kids took one look at an essay my son did and said, “You can do better than this.” He was right in what he said, and he respects the kids too much to accept mediocrity.

    My dad told me when I got my real estate license at 19, “I’d never buy a house from you at this age.” That’s ok. Lots of other people did. I just took it as a “I’ll show you” challenge.

    I think that’s the key, letting the naysayers fan a blaze, rather than extinguish the spark.

  19. I thought this quote was attributed to Nelson Mandela instead of Marianne Williamson. Am I off? Can anyone confirm the original source?

  20. Done it again, you have. I don’t know that I can decide exactly what it is you “sell” – but maybe your true calling is preaching!

    I’ve been jealous and cynical of a cohort for years, grinding my teeth when he earns praise. Somewhere, and for some reason, in the middle of your note, my attitude changed. He’s a good guy. He deserves it. And it doesn’t diminish ME to admit and say it. Feels better already. Thanks!

    I was always a little wary of your E-mails, too. But that was before the last couple….

  21. I had to look up the word “literally” before I wrote this. I am so honored to have anything to do with you if you are taking some of your income and hiring someone to pray. I am on the verge of tears that is so beautiful.

  22. “Faith and reason are like two wings on which the human spirit rises to the contemplation of truth; and God has placed in the human heart a desire to know the truth — in a word, to know himself — so that, by knowing and loving God, men and women may also come to the fullness of truth about themselves.” – Pope John Paul II, On Faith and Reason

  23. Excellent article. It echoes my message to my friends, colleagues and clients who deal with the effects of negative words and situations. We are all called to continue the ‘becoming’ process – and we cannot do that effectively if we’re holding on to the negative words, images and circumstances in our lives. God created each of us to ‘be like Him, in His image’ – full of faith, hope, love, ability and blessing.
    Thanks for sharing your wonderful message with us.

  24. Hey Perry:
    It’s kind of ironic that I should read this post when I did. I was drinking coffee with some of the old timers at the cafe this morning and was corralled into mentoring some middle school chilluns. They let me know that my non-school related experience and adventures would definitely be a help to some of these kids that don’t have much of a chance because of their present situations.
    I liked school and was actually fortunate to learn quite a bit without even trying. I started washing pots and pans when I was 14 (for $0.65/hour)liked the money in my pocket, got the entrepreneur spirit, a little wild streak in my heart and what Pat Green calls a threadbare gypsy soul and left Ohio as soon as I was able, never looked back and was successful in most of my endeavors. School gave me the basis for a few things in life, but real life kicked the crap out of me and taught me how to survive and how to make a difference.
    Thanks for the great posts, I look forward to reading your prose, keep up the good work

  25. Perry,

    The POSITIVE impact my 6th grade teacher (Mr. Quin) had on me still permeates my being to this day – I turned 60 a few months back.

    Thanks for the post. Keep up the good work. You’re the best!!

    Paul Johnson

  26. I’m glad I took the time to read your message Perry. It sounds like something you’ve had simmering inside for a long time. Yes, we all have …”things” inside that we’ve lived with longer than we realize.

    It shows how important a teachers role is in affecting and shaping young peoples lives. I had some terrible teachers when I was a kid. I had an adult say something to me once, when I was just a little kid, that was very hurting, and unjustified. I’ve lived with my pain also. I believe we are all prisoners of our own experiences. It’s important that we all learn to live in the light though, not in the darkness of the past. Live an honorable life, even if it’s in poverty.

    Thank you for making me self-reflect and to be even MORE appreciative for every little thing I have, and to be a little kinder to everyone around me.

    It’s one hat to a head Perry…if you mean well, do well.

    Mike Steinberg

  27. Perry,
    what a wonderful piece. Your dad would have been
    proud. Sounds like Joel Osteen type of message.
    I remember the teacher who asked me, “Do you think you will ever amount to anything?” What a terrible thing to say to a child.

    Because of your writing I am going to try to remember postive things folks have said to me along the way of life.

    Really a great piece! Thanks, Roy

  28. I remember my 7th grade band teacher said he could predict our future. He told my best friend she was going to be a housewife, my other friend she would be some kind of business exec and he told me I was going to be some kind of famous bodybuilder. I laughed so hard I almost fell out of my chair.

    Senior year my counselor ridiculed me for choosing the college bound curriculum. He told me not to waste my time. That it was too hard and I would end up dropping out anyway. I laughed at him and told him I would take my chances.

    Turns out college was super easy. I graduated with honors in my major (Psych w/ lots of criminal justice and marketing courses). I now run one of the most popular fitness blogs online.

    “First we have to believe, and then we believe.” Martha Graham

    Thank you for all your wonderful encouragement. Most people really are “awesomer” than they think.

  29. Fantastic post Perry. If we all let go of any traces of shame shoved on us by the Mr. Cs of this world, think how joy filled life would become.

    Shame, fear, pain–they all come from the same author: the least creative ‘person’ out there. Truth, goodness, freedom–all from the most creative. We get to choose what–and whom–to pursue.

  30. Many thanks for facilitating intercessory prayer for us, Perry. :)

    ———

    I’ve had a few Mr. Cs in my life. Mr/Ms C’s are easy to identify through their use of projection.

    I remember one Mr. C in particular. I was 13 and coaching a little league baseball team. Mr. C was one of the parents who just became a coach. I was breaking up a fight between two of the players, but I was doing it by being a peacemaker, rather than a bouncer.

    Mr. C came over and grabbed my arm and swung me away and started yelling at me. He had come up with a very–let’s just call it–rich story about how I was laughing at the kids and encouraging them to fight.

    I knew it was BS and Mr. C’s accusations had no relationship to me. It was an early, yet valuable, lesson in projection. It inoculated me against every Mr C. that came after.

    I had another Ms. C try to project her faults on to me not too long ago. It inspired this tongue-in-cheek offering . . .

    1. A Projecters Prayer

      Oh, dear Lord, deliver me from my own sins and make them another’s.

      Take my guilt, my shame, my remorse and deliver them unto a soul much less worthy of your favor than I.

      Bring unto me, O Lord, an honorable, yet unsuspicious, vessel that I may encroach upon their personal boundaries and make my own self-loathing theirs.

      Yea though I walk through the shadow of the valley of my lessors, give un to me, O Lord, thy rod and thy staff so that I may build a fortress around myself protected in the bosom of my own hubris.

      Bring un to me the wisdom to see the humanness in another so that my guilt and shame and remorse may have fertile soil so that I may plant my pain within them.

      Grant me the judgment, O Lord, that I may inflict my pain on others, so that I am free of it forever.

      Oh dear Lord, show those in my presence the light of your wisdom and that that light is ME.

      Guard me from those who would have me turn my back on my natural right to have my most trivial of needs, no matter the harm it may have on others.

      Oh, dear Lord, please accept these prayers in your name, in my name
      (no difference really).

      I not-so-humbly request you grant my prayer, so that I may be rewarded for my whims, whatever they may be, now and forever.

      Amen

  31. Truly fascinating Perry, not that different from mine. (we’re about the same age) I also had a mum who suffered from extreme depression as a teenager/pre-teenager. I learnt from this. My dad was out working all the time. I was at a school where just not getting beaten up every day was a challenge and the teachers had little interest in the pupils.
    But all this must have stood me in good stead, I now have a great family, a great job, im doing what i enjoy, so I suppose Ive got to be thankful, everything is done for a reason is it not?

  32. Perry:
    Thank you for taking the time to be outwardly focused, and put pen to paper on some thoughts that have you’ve been inspired to write. Those thoughts are helping me and others to keep on keeping on, and not let speed bumps stop us cold.

    A sincere thank you for your time spent directed toward others, to encourage and help cultivate. You’re a good man, Charley Brown.

    Most sincerely and appreciatively,
    Kevin

  33. Spot on Perry.

    I’ve had a pretty “polished” time of things these last 2 years.

    And this is breakthrough year.

    I am planning and working at my I.M. business like never before.

    Awesome post!

  34. Hi Perry

    One of the best blog posts I’ve ever read.

    Period.

    Love the line – “It’s not even like those conversations were very long. It’s just that they had impact.”

    There’s a lesson in there for all of us. It just takes a few words to someone.

    Challenging & absolutely inspiring

    Thanks for writing this

    Aidan

    1. Yep. Very good. Thanks much for this timely reminder that arrived in my email box this morning. I appreciate you. You are a Knight of light. Shine on good Sir Perry.

  35. Who can I trust?

    Put your faith in any human and he/she will fail you in sooner or later.

    I have observed that historic men of the Bible had a trust that carried them to success. The trials of the man called Job would destroy most men. Yet he stood by faith trusting in God. He declairs, “Though He slays me. I will praise Him”. Read the story and you know that it wasn’t God afflicting him.

    My hope is that I will stand firm in the face of destruction and say to God, I trust you!

    Why not? I prefer to look at myself like God looks at me! He says that I am an awesome winner! So are you! Ernie!

  36. Thanks, Perry. I especially appreciate your words of encouragement today, after going through some tough times myself over the past few months and having to muster up all of my strength as I get ready to release a new software product.

    I can definitely see how this challenging time has allowed my family and me to grow. And it’s nice to know that all of us are not alone during such times.

    Steve

  37. Wonderful post Perry! Yes In our own way, we are all geniuses!

    In the book, the Gifted Adult by Mary-Elaine Jacobsen she writes.

    “Genius was derived from a word used by the ancient Romans, who considered genius a guiding
    inborn spirit who protects, reassures, and coaches throughout life.”…

    “.. For the Everyday Genius, being fully alive entails two distinct but inseparable missions: first, being free to be oneself, and second, being dedicated to the betterment of others’ lives.”

  38. Horrors! Talk about God. I love your CosmicFingerprints site. I listen to your video a least once a week. (You really are a good speaker). In many peoples lives you are a Dr. Knoll or a (cough) Mrs. Snoberger. We all have the potential to be awesome to someone else; all we have to do is be available. That is the greatest thing you can become… not just awesome, but to help someone else realize they are awesome. It is nice to know someone on the net that remains ‘available’.
    Thanks,
    Mark

  39. Another great post Perry.

    My mom is bipolar too — I feel where you’re coming from :)

    I sometimes look back and wonder “maybe I DID need some help then” too … haha … funny how that works.

    Like you said though it’s all either polishing or grinding, and I prefer to believe it’s all divinely appointed polishing :)

    Best,
    Caleb

  40. Perry, its been one slam dunk exhortation after another for the last week or so from Planet Perry. Its got me breathless and not more than a little afraid. The hole I like to crawl into keeps getting smaller and smaller. I don’t think I’ll fit in there. But more importantly the want to fit in there keeps going away…

    1. Perry,

      Your words inspired me today when I needed it. I think we all tend to see people who have succeeded and think it was easier for them. Sharing the challenges you went through – and that it wasn’t always easy – makes it easier to believe that we’ll overcome the challenges of today and get through to a much better time.

  41. Hello Perry,
    I generally don’t read these “feel good” e-mails however something compelled me to read this from start to finish.

    Very inspiring and spot on.

    Thanks for making the first part of my day.

    Regards,
    Jaime

  42. Well written Perry. I have been there- lost everything (several times)including my credit, my business and my employees and have had to struggle back and rebuild.

    We are now growing like crazy in this new business, opportunities are opening up every day, and my mind doesn’t stop developing new products and new lines for our customers. I am energized and excited everyday- something I had lost for many years…
    We’re still dealing with the past, still rebuilding, but I’m happier than I have been in 20 years- love what I am doing, love my wife and my 4 grown kids.
    The loss forced me to make a decision- change or die. I chose life…
    When God chooses to close a door, we can begin to look around for a new one, or we can cry and stomp our feet like prepubescent teens saying “That’s not fair!”

    There is always another door, or window, or even a crack in the wall, though it may take some stumbling around in the dark to find it, and the hinges may be rusty, or the crack too small requiring work to push it open or carve your way out.

    Though it may not make sense to us in our finite concepts of time, we will male it through- if we choose to. When we finally emerge victorious on the other side, we will look back with a grin and a deeper understanding that there is a Providential hand at work that cares.

  43. Such a much needed post to hear on this rainy monday, Perry. Honestly I normally only read about one out of 40 or 50 of your emails but from here forward I will read them first.

    You are a good man. God bless you.

  44. Thank You for taking the time to do this Perry.

    I know your words are making a difference in many peoples lives.

    “We” appreciate it…

    David Tingley

  45. Thank You for taking the time to do this Perry.

    I know your words are making a difference in many peoples lives.

    “We” appreciate it…

    David Tingley

  46. Perry,

    I really like your comment, “Don’t let Mr. C define you.” All too often we let others definition have too much influence on our lives/businesses.

    Anytime we encounter criticism, our default position is defensive. Encouragement goes much further than condemnation. You are correct, you cannot humiliate someone into bettering themselves.

    Getting the revenge/resentment monkey off your back is one of the best things a person can do. Revenge/resentment only hurts you.

    Some very outstanding lessons in your post.

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